I got single. Nobody telling me that I shouldn't work out as I could lose too much weight or scold me for not eating enough or avoiding unhealthy high calorie foods. I started doing what I wanted to. I hadn't really worked out before so I started from simple aerobics classes being petrified of the gym. I got over that fear fast and fell in love with the hard work and the amazing feeling of kicking my own ass. The

It gives me enormous amounts of confidence not only about my looks but what I can accomplish. As I raise my two kids on my own, work at 2 jobs and own and breed dogs, I have quite alot on my plate. I can't imagine doing it all without the endorphin highs and the self confidence I get from working out. Now I need to grow inside myself to be able to do the hard work needed to achieve my training goals and prove myself I can persist and beyond. As a former professional victim and experienced practitioner of learned helplessness that I have been most of my life this is huge for me. I can make it work and working out is giving me the playground to practice that I need with the invaluable bonus of setting a good example of a healthy lifestyle for my kids.