Big long dumb vent incoming. Woke up on the wrong side of the bed today and I don’t play well with others it seems. I hate being here on Saturday. It’s packed and the staff sucks. My gym has 3 separate areas. The main gym, ladies only and VIP. I don’t use the ladies gym often but I was having a rough time getting to the equipment I needed. Was trying to superset cable and barbell rows. The barbell rack was half empty so I went to the main gym and noticed a 45 lbs and a 50 lbs that clearly belonged to the ladies side rack. One set being rubber the other all metal. Brought it in to do my sets and left it in the rack where I figured it belonged. Few minutes later a member of staff tells me I need to rack it where I took it from. I explained my assumption and said I’d bring it back after my last set. Get to the racks with said barbell and notice there’s now 2 50 lbs and 2 45 lbs. Evidently they belong in the other area. I try to explain this to the guy at the counter who follows me to the rack and tells me it belongs there because one is lighter than the other. Both barbells are clearly marked 50 lbs. So I try to get him to explain. 🤨 He tells me that people would rather use it in the main gym so that’s why it’s there… What about the people who want to use it in the ladies sid…. Like I did?!? Now I wouldn’t argue over something so small but this guy either takes me for a fool or is an idiot. Not one point would he admit that perhaps I wasn’t the one who put it back in the wrong place and stood his ground that I need to put things back where they go. Admittedly this is petty af but I get really annoyed when people would rather feed me blatant bullsh*t than entertain the idea that maybe they were wrong. So I stooped. Made a small scene and made myself look just as foolish as him. 🤷🏻‍♀️😒

Got an a quick pump today all upper body. Gym was a little crowded so I did what I could.

Was feeling down today so hot the gym to make me feel better … It worked as it always does … Hit full upper body turned out to be a really good session. Hope you all have a great day … 🦍

Since it is the holidays… 😜 The Relationshift When someone shows you trust, a feel-good jolt of oxytocin surges through your brain and triggers you to reciprocate. -PAUL ZAK “My family doesn't care for radishes, but I do. It doesn't bother me. However what about when things feel like they really matter?” Creating excellent relationships requires balancing our own needs and those of others. This depends on the balancing of the chemicals oxytocin (core to social bonding and trust), dopamine (essential to goal-orientation/seeking and gaining reward) and testosterone (critical for independent competitive action), and the management of the hormone cortisol. One of the most powerful human acts that enables us to live together in this pluralistic world is to respect other points of view. Our neuroscientific programming, however, makes this more challenging than it may seem at first glance. Our brains are wired to notice difference and to prioritize bonding with people who are the same - who think the same, who look the same. “The ‘Relationshift’ technique enables us to take a stark look at such situations – corporate, global or close to home – so that we can produce outcomes that are realistic and fair and negotiate effectively. Sometimes in severe situations it is about sharing the strain and the hardship equally; in others it is finding a beneficial outcome for both parties. Find a time and place to reflect on a relationship that you would like to improve. 🤔 10 Min Reflection Close your eyes and think about a relationship with someone with whom you get really well. (This helps you begin the exercise with an oxytocin boost, putting you in a compassionate state.) Name your emotions and notice how they feel in your body. Where do they start? How do they move? Now think about a relationship with someone who you maybe struggling to understand. Name your emotions and notice how they feel in your body. As cortisol rises, where do they start? How do they move? Are they feelings of frustration, impatience, dislike, anger or resentment? Pause Feel the impasse; notice the specific signature of cortisol in your body Resist taking action; center, breathe and ‘disarm’ – lowering cortisol. Enquire of yourself: which of your values or drivers does this person impact? Is it control, ownership, achievement, harmony, security, certainty, freedom, creativity, etc? What does your inner child say? More in comments…

1.5 mile outdoor walk. ✅