I'm not really motivated by other bodybuilders, although I can still appreciate the end result from hard work, diet, good genes and a good connection for a Jose Canseco "supplement" program which is evident on the biggest boys.

I get real inspiration from a quadriplegic at my gym who has to lift himself out of his wheelchair onto the Hammer Strength machines without any help. He's got a strong upper body, great form and sports this tough "straight-out-of-prison" look yet surprises you with positive, upbeat energy and a very friendly personality- unlike some of those chest-beating prima donna weightlifters who never make eye contact with anyone except for themselves in the mirror and are too busy checking their voicemail in between exercises to replace their weights back on the rack.

Too often, male couples of comparable size and build will focus less on inspiring one another while trading techniques and instead see their efforts deteriorate into competing with and "out-benching" the other- a symptom of a greater problem beyond the gym.

You and your boyfriend may have different builds and therefore different strengths and should focus on pushing each other, constructively. The results will be indicative of this synergy between you.

My advice is to rememeber that whomever you train with can make or break your level of enjoyment and success in the gym. If your workout partner is also a life partner and he makes you feel less like a companion and more like a competitor, consider one mantra I live by:

If he doesn't complement your life- HE COMPLICATES IT.